Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Are You Ready to Forgive?


*This is my article for the February 2012 President's Page in the Sabbath Recorder.


     When I read this verse, I think of a parent watching a child and knowing they are going to make a mistake but letting them make it anyway. Then I see the parent use that mistake not as an opportunity to punish their child but as a teaching moment to correct them in love and to show them that there is no expectation of perfection on the parent's part but rather a transmission of grace and mercy.
     God is ready to forgive us when we disobey Him and fall short of His calling for us and our churches. He is gracious and merciful in the way He corrects us and places us back into His community. He is aware that sinners sin and is slow to get angry with them but abounding in love, which bides the anger.
     Unfortunately, as imperfect people, we sometimes do not model the readiness of our God to forgive. We are not READY to go forward with our calling from God because we are trapped with the grudges of the past.
     Have you thought about what grudges you are not ready to forgive (the ones that come burning to mind when you are reminded of a particular event or person)? As a follower of our Lord Jesus, have you modeled the grace and mercy He has displayed to those who have sinned against you? (If you haven't forgiven, then it will be hard.) Are you slow to anger when mistakes are made? Is your love steadfast for His people or is it conditional and held hostage by what you want to have happen?
     Thankfully, God does not forsake us when we make mistakes. He lovingly corrects us and brings us back into a right relationship through the work of God the Holy Spirit and His holy people, the church. Because He uses us to build His Kingdom, from the inside out, this is why it is important for the church to model the forgiveness, grace, mercy, and love of our Savior.
     ARE YOUREADY to ask for forgiveness from God and from those you have sinned against? (Confess and Repent) ARE YOU READY to forgive those who are indebted or have transgressed against you? If you have done these two things, ARE YOU READY to show His holy people (the church) grace, mercy, and love? In modeling this forgiveness, ARE YOU READY to be the church to each other inside the body and the world outside the body?
     It is getting close to that time to start thinking about your plans for the summer. Our annual Conference program this year is lining up to be very exciting. We will have seven messages from some great speakers in the evening flowing from our Conference theme, ARE YOU READY?, and challenging our churches to get ready for what God will do through them. There will be five Bible study sessions taking us through the book of 1 Thessalonians. Of course, there will also be some meal meetings, fellowship times, a few banquets, singing, prayer, and ice cream.
     There is still time to offer any input into our yearly meeting. Please feel free to contact me through phone (304-629-9823), email, Twitter, or Facebook.
     On behalf of myself, our denominational executives, our boards and agencies, and our Conference host committee, we want to invite you to join the ARE YOU READY? conversation at West Virginia Wesleyan College in Buckhannon, WV from July 29-August 4, 2012.

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

I am NOT a Resolutions Guy!

I used to be that guy. You know...the one who used to make a bunch of resolutions and then just as quickly as they were made toss them aside. (However, resolutions aren't necessarily bad-as Joe Thorn explains)

It was a few years ago that I got sick of that. I always started my year out feeling like a failure. This is a bad way to set the tone for a year. It often wasn't until March or April that I got out of my failure funk and felt like I could have a productive year. What a waste of three month!

I refuse to wallow in self-pity any longer. Instead, I take advantage of my "new" year and realize where I fell short in the previous year (and what lessons were learned) and what goals I want to make for the coming year.

In 2011, I learned the following lessons:

  • Having the title of pastor does not help you pastor your people well
  • Be careful what you pray for. God may actually give it to you.
  • It is better to be accused of being something than to sin trying to defend yourself.
  • I am not as wonderful as I think I am; but I am loved far more than I believe I am
In 2012, I will make the following goals:

  • To strive to be empathetic to those whom I serve
  • To lose 50-80 pounds (mostly because I realize my obesity is because of lack of self control)
  • To regularly spend time with just my family (including the goal of pastoring them well)
  • To spend my time with God well, doing more listening than talking. (in order to discern His will)
What did you learn in 2011? What goals are you making for 2012?

How REAL is too REAL when it comes to marriage?


Book Review of Real Marriage by Mark and Grace Driscoll


     I applaud most things Mark Driscoll does since I had been introduced to him about two years ago (although I don't agree with his emphasis on everything). However, with the release of his new book, Real Marriage: The Truth about Sex, Friendship, & Life Together, there appears to be some controversy stirring.

     Tim Chailles, uber blogger and lover of Jesus and His church, writes a very biting review of this much publicized new release. His conclusion is:

Having read the book through two times, I’ve found myself wondering how to best measure or evaluate it, but perhaps these criteria are useful: Would I want to read it with my wife or would I encourage her to read it on her own? Would I recommend it to the people in my church? In both cases the answer is no. This is not to say that the book is entirely without merit; Real Marriage does have things to commend it. But in my assessment the negatives far outweigh the positives. Its disjointed nature, the way it is unhinged from the gospel, the way it evaluates sexual acts through an improper grid—in all these ways and more it inadvertently lowers marriage rather than elevates it. With so many good books on marriage available to us, I see no reason to recommend this one.
     Driscoll's take on the Song of Solomon has been controversial for years but I have been refreshed, encouraged, and helped by many of his messages regarding the role of men and women in the church which is founded from their roles in the home. If Chailles' review is accurate, this will be a terrible disappointment for me and others I assume.

     Read the whole review here. But make sure to read the book for yourself, be challenged, and decide!